Everything Is Not About ME

1. e·go

     [ee-goh, eg-oh]  Show IPA

   noun, plural e·gos.
   

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   the “I” or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought.

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   Psychoanalysis . the part of the psychic apparatus that experiences and reacts to the outside world and thus mediates between the primitive drives of the id and the demands of the social and physical environment.

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   egotism; conceit; self-importance: Her ego becomes more unbearable each day.

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   self-esteem or self-image; feelings: Your criticism wounded his ego.

   5.
   

   ( often initial capital letter ) Philosophy .
   

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   the enduring and conscious element that knows experience.

   b.
   

   Scholasticism. the complete person comprising both body and soul.
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We all have an EGO.  My ego is one of my struggles.  I am currently in a 5 am "early to rise" challenge for which I committed myself to waking up at 5 am every single day for 30 days.  Today is day 10.  For the most part this has not been very difficult and quite frankly it is proving to be life changing.  I would highly recommend this challenge to everyone that finds there aren't enough hours in the day to get things done.  By waking up earlier every morning you can achieve the things you used to only dream about.  I said all of that to say this... This morning I woke up at 4:45 without an alarm (I have for the past 3 days).  While I woke up early and made the 5 am roll call my mind was telling me that I needed to rest just a bit longer.  So I closed my eyes and did not hop out of bed as usual.  Of course I was awake and just laying there thinking.  I listened to my morning pd (personal development) for the group.  I continued to be still and continued to think.  Suddenly I had an epiphany as I was lying there for no good reason other than just to have quiet time to myself.   EVERYTHING IS NOT ABOUT ME! 

When I committed to a 5 am wake up challenge I did that for myself.  I wanted to be held accountable for getting up early.  Normally I get up early anyway but there were too many days that I felt like I was not getting up and doing the best that I could do every day to help me achieve my goals and I thought this group would help me with that and it most certainly has.  But I have learned from my fellow challengers that we are all human and have circumstances that are sometimes going to cause us not to be able to get right up at 5 am no matter how much we would like to rise and shine at that time every single day.  However this morning I wasn't staying in bed due to any uncontrollable circumstance.  I was staying in bed because I was being selfish.  By not getting up and tackling my day head first I was letting my challenge group down not just letting myself down.  I make excuses (you know excuses... those little lies you tell yourself to convince you that the bad choice you are making is justifiable) all the time to myself and this morning my excuse was that it wasn't hurting anyone but me.  In strolls epiphany and I jump out of bed and realize that it is time for an EGO CHECK!  This is how I check my ego... I simply say out loud (literally and I have a little hand gesture that I will do a video for soon) "SELF GET OVER YOURSELF".  And now ego is checked and I have snapped back into reality!!  

You may be thinking that I am crazy and that I was only hurting myself and no one is going to care if I hop right out of bed or if I sleep my life away.  But that is where you are completely wrong.  Sure no one in my group would know so no harm there.  Sure my son, my co-workers, my family, my facebook friends and everyone else in the world who knows me would have no idea that I didn't just hop right out of bed and how could that possibly effect them?  The answer is simple.  By failing myself I am failing others.  By not being the best that I can be I am not working as hard as I can work to help others.  By lying in bed and being selfish instead of getting up and making the most of every hour available to me every single day for no other reason than that I don't want to is selfish.  I have hopes and dreams and goals that are not going to accomplish themselves.  I have people that I want to have great results in my upcoming challenge group that I need to be my best for.  My son needs a great role model so that he can live the best life available to him (and I definitely do not mean monetarily I mean the best life as in being a great human being) which means I have to lead by example.  My co-workers deserve a manager that is in control of not just our office but who is also in control of her life so that they can not just respect me but be inspired by me.  So after about 12 minutes of lying there with my eyes closed I hopped up and said "SELF GET OVER YOURSELF" and started this blog post because I am trying to keep it real with myself and everyone else.  Keeping it real in all aspects of my life has been a game changer for me and I encourage you to try keeping it real with yourself as well.  The best way I know to keep it real is to constantly remind me, myself and my ego that EVERYTHING IS NOT ABOUT ME!  I hope I have inspired someone and I hope you will inspire someone also.  Have a great day and thanks for being in my world to help keep me real!  

XOXO

Tina Bling